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What Watching The Bachelor in Paradise Did to Me (P.S It’s not good).


The other day I booked a leg waxing appointment in between clients.

My waxing lady, Bel, has a home studio a few streets away from where we live. A 20-minute walk in the searing sun (and a layer of perspiration) later, I stepped into the oasis of her crisply air-conditioned studio and made myself comfortable on the massage table, lying back on the towel-covered surface.

My gaze was drawn to the blaring television perched in the corner of the room, where a gaggle of glamorous and tanned people were moaning about their romantic crushes (or lack thereof).

“Bachelor in Paradise…” Bel sighed, as she slathered my legs in wax. “It’s pretty fascinating and screwed up.” (For those residing outside Australia / or don’t watch reality tv, this show is about a bunch of singles in a tropical paradise trying to ‘find love’ but largely end up getting screwed over.)

I ‘mmmhmmmed’ in agreement, feigning slight understanding of a show I don’t watch, while knowing full well that now was not the time to launch a diatribe about the downfall of our civilisation and the increasing influence of ‘reality’ television in our society.

I tried to relax, inasmuch as one can while having hairs ripped from their roots, repeatedly.

But my attention kept being drawn to the drama on television.

A blonde woman was telling various men she didn’t feel chemistry with them (as far as I could tell). There was much discussion about what constitutes chemistry and she leaned on the term ‘sparkles’. If the sparkles weren’t there, it just wasn’t right. Fascinating.

Try as I might to ignore it – chatting to Bel, feeling present to the pain on my legs, smelling the faintly floral scent of the wax – my attention kept on being drawn to the unfolding drama on the show.

I could literally feel my energy field beginning to be sucked in by it.

The lower mind, ego-centric, fear and scarcity-based perspective on love and relationships began to permeate my field. I tuned into the collective pain body of people who see this as ‘how things are’ and while many may watch it under the guise of pure entertainment, there is a part of them that is (often and perhaps unwittingly) influenced by it, which consequently helps perpetuate this story as an actual reality for many many people.

I wondered as I watched, how many people were entraining with these wobbly and limited love and relationship energy codes every week or day (who knows how often this show is on).

(That was a rhetorical question; if you know please don’t tell me.)

After I left my appointment, with my shiny now-hairless legs (okay HALF LEGS if you want me to be specific), my energetic field was SO WONKY. I had to dish out a bit of inner energetic mastery for myself, to reconfigure it back into a fifth-dimensional state.

That’s how influential watching only 10 or so minutes of this show was on me – someone who is really quite aware of what’s going on in her field almost all the time.

It dragged me right on down. By the time I got back home, I was almost back to normal for me.

But, all of this got me to thinking about the importance of being aware of WHOSE or WHAT codes we’re entraining with on a daily basis.

While of course we have our own codes circling in our fields, and can remain very present within our own energy fields – we exchange codes with anyone or anything we come into contact with. We enmesh our energetic fields with others and exchange codes ALL THE TIME.

We immerse ourselves in fields that will either help us expand and come into alignment with our higher / fifth-dimensional self OR drag us down into our lower dimensional, fear-based and limited self.

If we constantly hear the same fear-based story peddled over and over again: “there aren’t any decent men / women, money doesn’t grow on trees, in order to achieve in business or work you have to constantly be busy / burnt out” – of course that’s going to be the norm for us. OF COURSE. These are the codes we swim in, this is the reality we create.

I know this because I used to swim in these exact codes.

The stories of ‘no good men around’ stalked me for years, dragging me into the depths of despair, feeling like I was walking around with a big red sign on my head saying ‘SINGLE OVER 30, BETTER COME AND ASK ME IF I’VE MET ANY GOOD MEN LATELY. OR BETTER YET, ASK ME ABOUT MY TICKING BIOLOGICAL CLOCK! I LOVE THAT.’ – until I decided to give society’s psychotic perspective the flick and created my own reality where I was already whole, complete and amazing as is, AND there were PLENTY of amazing men around. And yes, I magnetised my soulmate love. (P.S There really are SO MANY amazing people around, REALLY).

Speaking of biological clock and age, how about flicking the idea of declining health or an aging appearance being compulsory as we get older. Instead, we get better and better. I’m more healthy than I’ve ever been, and I don’t have a strict health or exercise regime, besides eating and moving intuitively. We aren’t meant to age anywhere near as quickly as what our medical systems purport. And when we channel light energy through us on a daily basis, it’s like taking an anti-aging pill. I’m 36 and I’m far more healthy and fertile than I was in my 20s.

OR how about the codes of it being ‘extremely hard / impossible’ to leave my high flying career in international development and move into working full-time into my own soul work coaching business, while still being able to pay my mortgage and travel overseas with my man for eight months? The number of nay-sayers who tried to fill my field with fear over not having a salaried income and the difficulties of working while traveling were IMMENSE. I put my middle finger up to those codes too, immersed myself in the field of infinite possibilities, and went and DID IT.

We all KNOW when we’ve been dragged down into a lower dimension. We feel anxious feelings creeping in, scarcity mentality permeates our being, and we see and sense lack all around us.

We all KNOW when we’ve entrained with a higher dimension too. We feel elevated into the field of infinite possibilities, sure of our worth, limitless and expansively open.

So – how often do you feel the latter or the former?

Do you:

Want a conscious and loving romantic relationship – but instead, you’re wallowing in doubts about your worth and what’s possible for you?

Wish there was more financial abundance in your life, but you hang around in the energetic fields of those who bitch and moan about how little they have?

Want to transform your hobby or side hustle into a viable soul business, but you surround yourself with those who are dabbling or nay-saying the very possibility?


Being discerning of the energetic codes you allow yourself to entrain with, daily, is critical to the fruition of any kind of success you’re calling in.

Can you see how important this concept is?

It’s only as important as whatever you’re calling in – but hasn’t arrived yet.

Do you feel ready to say YES to your 5D life?

Ready to no longer faff around about your desires and dreams and actually step into the reality of it HAPPENING?

Then I have some codes for you! I have room in my 1:1 Private Mentoring Program for just *two* women who are seriously freaking ready.

Not just maybe. Definitely ready.

Email me (carly@carlystephan.com) or book yourself in for a complimentary call to apply.


What Disenchantment Will Do To You


Losing your enchantment with life may seem inconsequential at first. And it may even BE inconsequential if it’s just a passing phase, and you have the tools and tricks to winch your way out of it.

The sneaky thing about disenchantment though, is that it’s a screwy little motherf*cker, who creeps into the crevices of your life, and before you know it – has you in its greasy vice-like grip, adding a wash of grey and disdain for everything to your existence. And my GOD is it tough to shake loose.

This past weekend, through a powerful process I was taken through by the amazing Marcela Widrig, I began to see the ways I’d allowed disenchantment to leak into me in the past little while.

It wasn’t until I was physically moving the pattern of ‘I don’t get to do what I want’ through my body (full of resentment, frustration and icky childhood huffiness), that I realised I’d recently been losing my grip on the magical life I’ve been cultivating.

Here are some of the signs and hallmarks that you too may be unsuspectingly squeezed by disenchantment.


  • You’ve become increasingly whiny and victim-y:  you’re really externally focused on what it is ‘outside’ of you that has made you feel this way
  • You’re retreating from life, and energetically withdrawing – making yourself small and unnoticeable
  • You’re fearful of staking your claim and taking up space in the world
  • You think you don’t matter
  • You feel like you cannot get what you want
  • Your boundaries are constantly being overstepped – first by you, and then by others. They’re also leaky, murky and permeable
  • You shy away from supportive decisions that you know will help you and your highest potential
  • You’re constantly seeking permission – from your spouse, friends, family. Sorry is a frequently used word in your vocabulary.

If any of these signs are calling you, holler! This is a freaking woeful state to be in, hey?

And it is time to begin making decisions that help you realise YOU ARE HERE in this magical life of yours and YOU MATTER.

Your experience of it ALSO MATTERS. The magic matters.

During this past weekend’s workshop, I danced the pattern of ‘not getting to do what I want’ through my body and cried the tears of frustration at myself for not having remained vigilant to the boundaries I was over-stepping, within myself.

I moved, cried and FELT it all until all I was left with was potent energy searing through my body.

The magic of being present with it, and feeling it all, brought me right back into my body – and SOOOO ready to take up space again.

I am also SO FREAKING glad to have done this during this week because it’s a cosmically powerful week to choose differently, change the story – and make the changes we want to see in our lives become manifest.

It’s the Lunar New Year and Solar Eclipse on Thursday, which will see the close of a super potent eclipse portal – between last month’s Super Blue Blood Red (with a cherry on top) Full Moon Eclipse and the upcoming Solar Eclipse this Thursday.

The cosmos is in full support of us GOING BIG – and make the decisions that are supportive of our wellbeing, vibrancy and juicy presence in the world.

Just start with one decision – if you found a hallmark of disenchantment in the list I wrote above. What ONE THING can you commit to or begin, that’s going to turn that sucker around, and have you feeling the MAGIC again?

Just one thing.

And lovely, if you want to work with a mentor and coach who will lovingly call you on your sh*t and keep you accountable to your enchantment and the searing bright light that you REALLY ARE  –  I have just two spots available in my private 1:1 mentoring program.

It’s a first in, best-dressed scenario.

Book in for a chat here or email me carly@carlystephan.com, and let’s dance this disenchantment right back to where it came from.

A Personal New Year Update


I closed out the final moments of last year in the crystal clear ocean of The Sandon, swimming, bobbing in, and riding the waves with some of my fave people in the world.

It was sunset on December 31st, 2017, and the golden light surrounding us was INCREDIBLE. It felt like we’d all been swept into some kind of alter-dimensional universe OR a Coca-Cola commercial, I couldn’t quite decide which.

We’d just waded our way back over from an island off the coast, where my ladies threw me a surprise birthday soiree in a sacred garden grove overlooking the aqua-coloured pacific ocean, replete with the most epic grazing platter and french champagne.

Stripping off our finery, we waded out into the water, as the nearly full super moon rose above the ocean.

Our collective joy was palpable, but I can only speak for myself when I say it was the stuff of dreams.

I’d been doing a weensy bit of reflecting that day, as many of us are wont to do on the final day of the calendar year, and/or our birthdays. For me, it’s a double whammy, and I tell ya there were many years where the energy of it all was just too much and I’d be guaranteed to bawl my eyes out at some point on new year’s eve.

I was reflecting on a year which really called me into my highest light and demanded I align publically with the truth of what I’m here to embody and teach, talk frankly about my Starseed experiences, and take on a role in our collective spiritual awakening that I’d never envisaged in my wildest dreams just a few short years ago.

My mission is clear. I want to inspire and guide you to open your energy channels to high-dimensional energy and deeply embody this light within, helping you ascend spiritually and allow your highest desires to manifest with ease.

I want YOU to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that YOU ARE THE LIGHT. And then FEEL this truth in your body radiating from your heart. And I want you to take your gifts and completely light up the world with them.

There are so many exciting things coming this year, and collectively there’s going to be an acceleration of energy again, which is ultimately awesome but temporarily provides some gnarly energetic waves to ride. So one thing I want to do is load you up with as much as I can to help you live the most magical life you can and make the most of these incoming waves of light. Think: videos, audios, PDF resources, more blog posts, speaking on stage, in-person events and workshops, more podcast interviews, group programs and a handful of 1:1 mentoring / coaching spots!

I have a newly gifted process (I cannot take full credit for this at all) and ‘technology’ that I’ve gradually channelled over the last year, from a cosmic collective who refer to themselves as the Arcturian / Sirian Alliance Council, which I’m so excited to see come to fruition (my Anchor Your Light babes are going to experience it first).

Your personal light grid activation helps increase your inner light quotient, and juices up all of your energy centres, amplifies your energetic radiance, increases your personal sovereignty (you connect to the galactic central sun, your original source) and allows you to experience your multi-dimensional nature. It does amazing things for your manifesting capacity and helps you download new templates to rewrite patterns that are no longer serving you, as well…

We are truly entering a golden age, in a broader galactic sense. The energetic movement of ascension demands that we reconnect to our divinity. And the universe is providing us with SO many resources (people, tools, techniques) to help us each remember and reclaim our divine-human nature, at this point in time. Not next life, this life.

The knowledge that we are source energy incarnated into earthly cosmic bodies is seeking to land deeply into the hearts of many on earth right now.

I really hope you let yourself bathe in the knowing of your own divine nature, beautiful. Or at least, that you’re ready to do so. Because that’s what’s coming at you!

Happy New Year, and huge smooches your way. Thank you SO MUCH for being here.

Experience a higher frequency NOW – Your Free Gift


A couple of nights ago, I was chatting to my man on a blurry Skype connection while he sat on the couch in our old apartment in Kathmandu, Nepal.

He’s back there for the moment wrapping up his research project, and his being there has had me all reflective about this time last year, when we were just settling into living there for the following six months.

It wasn’t long after we arrived there last November that I found myself suffering a couple of bouts of a particularly nasty gastro bug, and the second round of it ended with me being rushed by our Nepali family to the nearest high-quality emergency room; me delirious with severe dehydration  in the back seat, my beautiful man holding me, barely knowing where we were as we wound our way through the back streets of Patan and along the Bagmati river.

Fast forward through a few days of mega-rehydration in a fantastic hospital, and  I was curled in a little ball on the floor in our apartment, centimetres from our bar heater, trying to get warm in the frigidly frosty December weather. I can still feel the course carpet beneath me, while the oscillating heater whirred, barely heating my face.

I’d been discharged from the hospital, but hadn’t yet fully recovered. I intuitively knew, and somehow was able to communicate to the doctors (who were reluctant to let me leave) that I wasn’t going to fully heal while I had a needled cannula sticking into my hand. My body simply wasn’t going to be fully well while being intermittently poked and prodded at all hours of the day and night.

But it was a risk to leave. If I needed to be re-admitted, insurance wouldn’t cover it (the discharge was against the advice of the doctors).

So alongside feeling anxious about the ramifications of me leaving the hospital, I encountered another issue: the light and energy I normally felt coursing through my body, connecting me to the universal current, atma, god, ‘all that is’, whatever you want to call it – was gone.

And it felt awful.

The feeling of not being connected to my inner light left me feeling bereft, anxious, disconnected and ungrounded.

And what I realised was that this used to be my constant REALITY. Not the exception to my reality. My living, breathing, day-to-day truth. I would subconsciously always be trying to self-soothe: numbing and distracting myself with shopping, tv-watching, drinking alcohol, or trashy magazines – anything to stop me from being fully present with the disconnection I felt internally.

And I now had to find a way to anchor this light back into my body, without even knowing if it was possible (seriously, I thought it was GONE.)

So, I began to lean back into the processes that helped me get to the connection in the first place. I tuned into my guides, surrendered, lay in shivasana for hours as I channelled the light back through my body, and slowly but surely, I found my way back into the space of being a conductor between the energy of the cosmos, and the earth.

Let me tell you – it was sweet, sweet, relief and pure joy to come back into this state. I now never take it for granted. (And I didn’t need to go back to hospital.)

Can you relate? Are you feeling a similar feeling of disconnection within, during these times of energetic ascension?

If so – I’d love to give you something.

For a limited time, I’m gifting you the exact processes I used to re-connect, which are in my  Cosmic Light Connection Activation, a 12-minute audio that tunes you into the higher vibrations of the cosmos and brings them INTO your body, allowing you to braid your consciousness with these higher frequencies, and experience being a conductor of the energies that are ALWAYS seeking to move through you, if you allow them.

If you want to intensify your inner luminosity, magnify your manifesting magic and tune into your higher cosmic guides – you need this audio in your toolkit.

This is normally only available to my clients, and participants of Upgrade Your Life.

But it’s now YOURS to download.

I’d LOVE to hear how you go with it. Let me know in the comments below.

P.S I’ll be popping in again soon, I have something brewing that I think you’ll love. And ooh, a secret squirrel tells me you’ll get a sneak peek if you click through and grab your cosmic activation

Upgrade Your Life: Cosmic Activation Workshop


It’s hard for me to believe it’s been just over one year since I took the leap into solo-soul-biz life. So so so much has transpired since 1 July 2016, including an 8-month overseas journey with my man.

One thing that I have been absolutely champing at the bit to do since launching myself into my soul biz full time, is SPEND TIME WITH YOU IN REAL LIFE.

And because most of you couldn’t make it over to India and Nepal for a visit (so selfish), I haven’t been able to hang out with my tribe IRL since launching my business.

Now that I’m back in Oz, this is changing, tout suite! Yahooo!

Picture my vision, if you will:

– A beautiful light-filled space
– An intimate group of like-minded women
– 3 1/2 hours of sacred time together
– Gentle movement
– Creating and weaving magic
– Upgrading and Activating into our highest timelines
– Cultivating inner and outer connection
– Channelling cosmic light into our bodies
– Connecting to our high dimensional guides
– Feeling freaking awesome together
– Savouring delicious treats

Sound like something you’d be keen on? YAAAAAAS!

I’d love for you to join me at my LIVE WORKSHOP and Masterclass: Upgrade Your Life – Cosmic Activation

This workshop is for you if:

You’re sick and tired of never achieving your intentions or goals
You’re over the ‘story’ you keep telling yourself about yourself and your life
You’re ready to stop playing small all the time
You’ve had enough of not feeling like you ‘deserve’ anything amazing
You’re tired of over-giving and depleting yourself
You’re a notorious self-saboteur
You want to begin drawing your desires to you with light-speed and ease
You want to live life on your terms
You’d LOVE to learn how to channel more light into your body and experience a LIVE and powerful cosmic activation
You want a connection with your higher self and the guides who are there to serve and help you
You’d absolutely adore some sacred feminine connection time with your kindred peeps (including me!)

During our time together, we’ll be:
– Re-writing and re-wiring our limiting beliefs and life perceptions that are keeping us STUCK

– Tuning into and embodying our innate worth and immense value (no more ‘deservedness deficits’!)

– Exploring the importance of being present with our joy / upper-limiting – and expanding into our increasing success without FREAKING OUT

– Activating our receivership channels to bring more of what we desire to us

– Experiencing a live guided cosmic activation meditation to help channel the creative energy of the cosmos through our bodies

– Connecting to our higher dimensional guides

– Cultivating a strong sense of inner connection as well as outer connection with our soul sisters!

– Having oodles of fun!

But WAIT, there’s more…

You also get a goodie bundle of amazingness included in your workshop ticket:

– A 1:1 Private 40-minute Activate + Align Session with me: let’s get accountable and laser focused on what you need to activate and align with for your upgraded vision to STICK. (VALUE: $145)

– PDF worksheets to fill in and play with. (VALUE: $50)

– A digital copy of the Cosmic Connection Activation. (VALUE: $25)

Total value (Workshop + Session + PDFs + Digital Download) = $340

Your early bird ticket is just $111! And it’s even cheaper if you book with a bestie.

These tickets are limited and have been selling like freshly baked cinnamon donuts, drizzled with caramel sauce. There are ONLY A FEW SPACES REMAINING!

I would LOVE to squeeze you in real life.

Let’s make magic together! >>> BOOK YOURSELF IN!

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