I can’t believe it


I’m having a pinch me moment.

It’s Monday morning and I’m sitting at one of my favourite cafes in Brisbane, easing my way into my week. The morning traffic is ambling past me on the main road outside, bleary-eyed locals are dropping in for their morning caffeine fix, and activewear bunnies are bouncing in to grab their green smoothies.

My sight is fixed on the faint rings in my nearly finished cup of coffee (coconut milk flat white), I’m listening to Rihanna on the radio, mumble-singing about Werk Werk Werkin’ and something else I really can’t make out (can anyone?). A plane buzzes overhead. A relatively normal morning, in the scheme of things. But I’m struggling to come to terms with my new reality. I can’t quite believe I’m here.


Last week, I packed up my home of over two years and have rented her out to her new tenants. All in preparation for an imminent move to India and Nepal with my man. If you’d told me a year ago that this is what I’d be doing 365 days hence, I would have laughed and said you’re crazy.

While packing up my place, I found a ripped and folded piece of lined paper, entitled: “2016 Intentions + Desired Feelings”. Dated 31/12/15, I had scribbled this note while sitting in the dim light of a crackling open fire, under a sky filled with stars in the hinterland of northern NSW. My man and I, and some of our closest friends, were having a quiet new years eve, sipping gin and dining on delicious made-from-scratch pizzas made by one of my besties, Em.

It was the day of my 34th turn around the sun, and we were about to enter a year I could literally *feel* wanted to burst out of the gates with gusto, fervour, and immensely powerful energy.

On this note of desires and intentions, it reads:

– Exalted
– Expansive
– Taking giant leaps in my soul work
– Speaking my truth and standing in it, unapologetically
– Growing in love and joy
– Having fun, always
– Loads of fun travel
– Live as the Goddess, always

In the first seven and a half months of this year, I’ve seen all of the above unfold in the most mind-blowing ways. And I’m still riding this energy. 2016 is a year for aligning with our highest possible timelines – and RIGHT NOW (+ into the coming months) is still one of the most potent times for master-manifesting.

Like a wave building to its zenith, we can all still harness this year’s energy for our creations. We are each powerful creators incarnate – creating in every moment. And right now we all have extra-super-duper power to do so.

Aligning with your inner soul truth and calling in your most exalted destiny need only be one decision away.

From what I can tell, cosmically 2017 is going to be a bit less ‘full-on’ energetically, so work with the magical upswing while it’s still here. Now is a supremely potent time to align with your highest state. You only need to state to yourself that you want to do this – and the conditions to create this reality begin to form. Wanna amplify it? Pop your intention in the comments below! Publicly declaring it is very powerful.

I never aspired to live the gypset lifestyle, but when we follow our soul’s path – firmly committed to the mystery of its unfolding, we OPEN to realities we could scarcely imagine previously. This time in three weeks, I’ll be freshly arrived in Hyderabad, India – opening up to the next part of my journey – eight months of immersion in the worlds of India and Nepal, and exciting adventures with my love.

I am completely, ridonculously excited.

Pinch myself excited.

And I hope, dearest – that you are feeling the same. That life is feeling exciting and expansive for you too. And if not, that you know you have the power to change those conditions, within you. And that you believe in yourself.

If you need some 1:1 guidance, mentoring and a loving nudge in the direction of your dreams, let’s work together! My books are open at the end of this month for just two more women. Drop me a line, if that sounds like your jam!

Thank you so much for being here, and for sharing in my journey. Your presence here is so precious to me. I’m looking forward to taking you along with me for the next part of my ride.

Are you living from the masculine by default?


Are you running your life on auto-pilot, defaulting to your masculine traits in your every day life? Residing entirely in your mind and being go-go-go and on-on-on all the time?

How long have you known that there MUST be more to life than manipulating all of the external conditions around you, to make you FEEL better inside?

You’ve spent so long getting the ‘ducks lined up’ (house, job, mortgage, partner/boyfriend/husband, children) thinking this was going to bring you that elusive joy, connection and sense of belonging. But there’s still a niggling emptiness within.

How long have you known that this is not the way you want to live?

For years this was me.

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Society’s Metrics of Success

The metrics of success were defined for me by society and I was determined (by hook or by crook) to achieve them. I thought I had to have all my ducks lined up in a row – high-flying career, designer wardrobe, husband, children, house bought, annual holidays – y’know, the so-called SHEBANG.

I thought success meant masculine striving to achieve until I’d accomplished everything. Two undergraduate degrees, an honours degree and a masters degree – check. Fantastic job, travelling the world and doing work I love – check. Bought a brand new apartment and managed the mortgage on my own – check. Regular holidays to exotic locales – check.

As I went about doing this, I noticed that not only were these so-called trappings of success not making me feel all that was promised – joy, elation, ease, calm – insert synonyms for happiness here. I began to feel a yawning gap within me that just couldn’t be filled by this stuff.

I had achieved so much in my life – but didn’t FEEL any better. Any sense of of fulfilment was brief and fleeting, I was always on to ‘the next thing’ looking for the promised sense of relief or joy that was elusively around every corner.

What was I doing wrong?

I wondered what I was doing ‘wrong’ that I hadn’t yet met my romantic soul partner, not knowing whether I ever would.

I had a complete lack of connection to myself, my inner truth, suffered from crippling comparisionitis, over-analysing everything and living purely in my head.

Amidst all of this – the GO-GO-GO and comparisonitis – I noticed there was no juiciness, passion nor yummy feminine radiance. I was waking up early, getting ready on auto-pilot, commuting to work, working all day, coming home to eat dinner and binge-watch television ’till late, then going to bed exhausted. Rinse and repeat. Living entirely in my head – and thoroughly DISCONNECTED from my soul.

The pub on a Friday night always beckoned – full of empty promises and tall glasses of sauvignon blanc to help me stifle and ignore the longing for SOMETHING BETTER THAN THIS.

It wasn’t until I realised my mind, body and soul was screaming for soulful, divinely feminine balance to my masculine-by-default nature, that I began to take my first tentative steps towards surrendering to the beauty and power of the feminine.

I was living ‘all up in my head’ and  focused so externally, I didn’t even realise there was another way I could be in the world.

That living in an overtly masculine manner was actually a choice – and one I could learn to balance and opt out of if I wanted.

Going within

So I began to dive within, and surrender to the divine feminine within me. I began learning and incorporating rituals, practices and ways of being that ultimately reconnected me to my soul, balancing and integrating  both the divine feminine and the divine masculine within me. And this was, frankly, revolutionary. Once we become conscious of our internal energy state – and align with our soul – we begin to see our external worlds respond in kind, with ease and grace.

I shifted from living in my head and driven entirely from the masculine, and into an embodied feminine state. I attracted a radiant tribe of supportive and loving soul sisters, conceived, created and birthed my soul work and passion into the world, activated my abundance, aligned with a romantic soul partner beyond my wildest dreams, and created a life of soulful connection and flow.

If any of my story and my journey sounds familiar to you, or sings to you in any way – I would love to serve you in the loving space of my new course, The Fulfilled Feminine Formula. 

There’s a ridiculously low early bird rate available FOR A FEW DAYS ONLY. Hop on board this magic carpet ride with me, why dontcha?

The Goddess Light Healing Activation Audio


Want an instant energetic upgrade?

Last week I did a ‘soft launch’ + share of my Goddess Light Healing Activation Audio, which I’ve recorded for week two of The Fulfilled Feminine Formula.

And these are just some of the words used to describe how my ladies felt after listening to it:

“Beyond Luminous”
“I loved this Activation Audio!”

Goddess Light Healing Activation Audio
This audio is part of week two’s module of The Fulfilled Feminine Formula – ACTIVATE. This is the week where we activate and begin to embody the sacred feminine within us – think tips, rituals and practices for getting juicy and rejuvenating feminine energy flowing through us. YUMBO.

It was going to only be available for members of my course – but I’ve decided that for a SUPER LIMITED time (seriously, only for another week you guys), the audio is available to download for ANYONE keen tohave an instant energetic upgrade.

She’s kinda magical, if I say so myself.

This activation audio is designed to:

  • Align you with your highest potential and timeline
  • Help you channel cosmic light
  • Open your heart portal
  • Shower you with divine light codes and higher dimensional goodness; and
  • Activate your internal goddess nature

I hope you enjoy your audio! Here’s to those juicy awesome vibes of yours.



How do you know when it’s time to FULLY commit to yourself? The Three Signs to look out for.


Last week I finished up my full time job in international community development. Over a decade in the industry, working on over 30 projects spanning from Eastern Africa to Indonesia, Papua New Guinea and Fiji, completing two undergraduate degrees and two postgraduate degrees in this field – and I’ve now wrapped my full time dedication to this work.


Because I felt the STRONG pull of a higher octave that my soul wanted to reside in. A place that felt far beyond the realms of what I had cultivated and craved for my life in the years past. A path that I carved out for myself.

I have had the most amazing, life-changing, inspiring, and mind-stretching time working in international development – it has truly been an utter treat. But for the past three and a half years, since launching my blog and taking consistent steps towards discovering more of who I TRULY am, another vocation began to call me strongly. My soul slowly unfurled and I began to feel a sense of fulfilment I never had previously.

I was first pulled towards the field of international development in the way that many in the industry are. I felt like I needed to help save the world. The horrendous external conditions many on our planet suffer, tugged at my heart strings hard – and I lassoed myself in the direction of ‘making things better’ for the planet and her inhabitants. Little did I know that in projecting my own internal brokenness, fear, pity and frustration on to the world, I’d come back full circle and discover my REAL work was actually inside me. The discovery that my external world and how I felt about it, was directly influenced by how things were for me internally, woke me up to where my true work resided.

I had been working on ’empowering’ other people around the world, when the person I really needed to empower was myself. And through my own healing journey, I fell into my zone of genius – walking with and supporting other women through their own self-healing.

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It was in the book, The Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks that I first heard of the term ‘zone of genius’ – where your greatest passion meets your innate talent. I also like to call it, ‘that thing you’d do all day for free, that lights you up like a Christmas tree’ (check out my kickass poetry, you guys). Well I felt that zone of genius slowly begin to reveal itself to me over the last few years, as I followed my intuition, heart-first, into discovering what I was made of, in every sense of the word. What I discovered blew my mind and radically expanded my horizon.

Three Signs

Speaking with a beloved mentor of mine late last week, in light of my impending big leap into the unknown, we explored the concept of ‘the right time’ to fully commit to our soul’s calling (and *just quietly* that now is really my time to do this).

So how do we know when this is? Are there any clear signals? I think there are a few.

Here are some of the signs I began to notice in myself before I knew I couldn’t ignore it anymore.

Three signs you need to FULLY commit to yourself and your soul purpose:

  • You’re feeling drained and depleted: Despite what society can sometimes condition us to believe, we are not supposed to operate in a drained and dried up state on a daily basis. If we’re struggling to get through the day, and it feels like we’re constantly trudging through thigh-deep mud, staring at the clock and willing it to be five o’clock already – this is a sign we are doing something, or things, that are really not congruent with our soul purpose. When we’re channelling energy into an endeavour that’s in alignment with our soul, wild horses can’t drag us away from what we’re doing. It’s energising, not depleting. For reals. I only JUST watched this week’s epic Game of Thrones episode, after being fully immersed in course creation for The Fulfilled Feminine Formula (coming soooooon!). Now that’s saying something.
  • You’re resenting and being triggered by people who are in alignment with their soul work: I have many beautiful examples of aligned and soul-driven women around me and in my circles. They do what truly lights them up and many of them also left high-powered / high-profile j-o-bs to follow their calling. I found myself becoming increasingly triggered by what they were doing in the world – something that I was only really able to do with a tiny slice of my time. And I know that anyone I’m triggered by, is reflecting back to me what I need to accept and integrate within me (both the light and the dark they exhibit). In these cases is a very clear signal of what I really wanted my life to look like.
  • You’re numbing out, ignoring your soul nudges and playing small (when you know you need to play bigger with your life): We all have our ways of numbing out, ways in which we veer downwards in vibration and don’t want to face what’s really going on. I do this by binge-watching shows, sleeping too long, and getting ‘busy’ filling my life with trivial things I need to attend to. One of my intentions for this year was to stop ‘playing small’ and go all in with my soul work, after a year of dancing around the fringes of my heart’s desires. But gosh if it wasn’t a painful process of realisation that I actually needed to EARTH all of my ideas and bring them into reality that sent me into a binge-watching marathon! What if it all falls flat? Gaaaah. It all seemed too hard and scary, and I became very deft at convincing myself that this important work could wait until after I watched one more episode of Orange is the New Black. Resistance is a cunning beast. It wasn’t until I dived within to see what the heck was going on that I realised the scared part of me just needed a little lovin’ care and attention – and an assurance that fear and resistance was just a sign that I’m on the right track.

If you find yourself the proud owner of any of the above feeling states, I’d love to encourage you to tune into what the next right step is for you. Set your intention to come into alignment with who you truly are, and what lights you up. State it out loud, write it down in a journal (or heck just on the back of a receipt) – but really EARTH it and bring it out of your head. Then open up to the avenues and possibilities that present themselves to you. And they will – you just need to look out for them. Tune into what your intuition is telling you to do. Drop into your heart and out of your head and FEEL into what’s right for you.

Discovering your soul’s purpose is as easy and as hard as allowing yourself to discover who you truly are – and living from your soul’s truth every day.

2016’s Energy

The energies of 2016 are of the ‘manifest thick and fast’ variety. We’re quickly calling things into our lives with this energy, and timelines are chopping and changing as quickly as we change our thoughts about something. You can create a new reality for yourself within just a heartbeat of intention. The energy forecast for 2017 is that this ‘manifesting fast’ energy is going to ease off and allow us to coast in whatever direction or frequency level we’ve set ourselves up for this year.

This time is an energy portal that’s ours for the taking, basically, and it’s calling on us to go FULL OUT and ALL IN, like a surfer paddling her heart out to to catch a massive wave. How high are you going to let yourself go? Can you be brave enough to align with your highest potential?

If you’re feeling the pull to activate and align with your highest timeline this year, I’m opening up just TWO spots (first in, first served!) right now for my exclusive 1:1 Private Mentoring for Women, available to you, even if you don’t live in Brisbane – thanks to skype!

If this makes your heart leap or calls to you in any way – I would love for you to apply and we can set up a complimentary 20 minute skype session. Drop me a line at carly@carlystephan.com or check out my 1:1 Private Mentoring page. My clients have been having the most AMAZING results of late (think – healing ancient mother-line wounds, instantly manifesting new houses, jobs, and calling in serious abundance. YAAAAAS!) and I’d love to see the same for you! Let’s have some fun together.

“In short, this girl is a gem! Carly stepped into my life at a time of imbalance and desire for spiritual growth. With her pure energy, she created a safe space of trust and openness for me. Her gentle guidance, coupled with profound wisdom and intuition gave me the opportunity to reconnect fully with myself. Sessions with her during our three months together were filled with inspiring and transformational concepts. This radiant soul brings light wherever she is and celebrates everyone around her. The experience of working with Carly was invaluable.” Philippa A, Brisbane.

Am I thinking positively – or spiritually bypassing?


There is a trap I often see people fall into when they’re on the path of integrating spiritual teachings and concepts into their lives – and that’s Spiritual Bypassing.

Spiritual bypassing is when people use ‘spirituality’ as an excuse for not facing and feeling uncomfortable emotions or situations. They either go in to ‘Zen-Mode” denial and think they can just OMMMM it away, OR more unfortunately, they fear that if they feel ANYTHING negative – anger, fear, sadness, that they aren’t being spiritual and will instantly draw something negative to them – a la master manifesting style.

Spiritual Bypass

And this is not good, you guys! The power of positive focus and positive thinking is GREAT and can be an extremely positive force in our lives IF it’s balanced with a healthy and conscious approach to facing, feeling and processing our uncomfortable emotions.

In this video I’m chatting about why it’s important to not spiritually bypass, and instead acknowledge and accept where we are (and how not doing this can kinda screw things up for us, in the long run).

No one ‘likes’ feeling awful (well…unless they’re a masochist), so compassion must be generously dished out when we feel like we want to spiritually bypass and run away from our feelings.

I hope this video serves you, loveliest one.

If you are a woman who is ready to STOP spiritually bypassing and start living her most conscious, juicy and spiritually exalted life, replete with an elevated frequency, complete embodied connection, and radiating her life purpose; I’m opening up TWO precious spots in my private 1:1 spiritual mentoring program in June, and I would LOVE to chat with you if this sounds like your jam.

If your heart leaps at the sound of this (even if just a wee bit!) click on over here to find out more, or drop me a line at carly@carlystephan.com 

In the meantime, I’d love to hear from you below in the comments – have you fallen into the spiritual bypassing trap? How do you deal with life going a bit pear-shaped sometimes? 


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